Videos
Estranged From Your Adult Child? Say This, Not That
If your adult child has stopped speaking to you, you’ve probably wondered what to say — and what words might push them even further away. The language you choose matters more than you might realize.
In this video, I walk through simple communication shifts that can reduce defensiveness, build emotional safety, and keep the door open for future connection. Instead of focusing on proving your intentions, I share how to speak in ways that encourage trust, respect boundaries, and create space for healing — including the difference between making demands and making respectful requests, and how to give an apology that actually lands.
Same Family, Two Different Stories: Why Memories Don't Match
How can two people from the same family remember the same event so differently? In this video, I explore why family members often carry completely different versions of the same experience — and how understanding those differences can help heal emotional wounds and open the door to better communication.
Our memories are shaped by emotions, age, perspective, and what we were going through at the time. What feels like a normal moment to one person can be remembered as deeply painful by another. Instead of focusing on who’s right or wrong, I talk through how empathy and curiosity can create stronger connections — even across very different memories of the same past.
When Estrangement Steals Your Identity: How to Find Yourself Again
Estrangement doesn’t only change your relationship with your child — it can change your identity, your routines, and the way you see yourself. If you feel like you’ve lost a part of who you are, this one’s for you.
In this video, I explore the three hidden losses that often come with parental estrangement, and share compassionate, practical steps to help you reconnect with who you are beyond the pain. Healing isn’t about forgetting your child — it’s about finding yourself again while leaving the door open for hope.
Why No Contact?
If your adult child went no contact – no call, no text, no explanation – this one’s for you.
Most of what’s written about no contact online comes from the adult child’s perspective. I flip that. I walk you through what’s actually happening when an adult child goes silent – not just the reason they may have given, but what’s often underneath it. That includes the role therapy can plan, the “protection” story an adult child may be living inside, and why the reason you were given (if you were given one at all) is rarely the whole story.
I also share honest thoughts on what actually moves things forward – not forcing, not fixing, but understanding and showing up differently.
Labeled "Bad Guy" by Your Own Child?
Here's What's Really Happening
Being labeled the “bad guy” by your own adult child is one of the most heartbreaking experiences a parent can face. Words like “toxic,” “unsafe,” “narcissistic,” or “boundaries” suddenly define the relationship — and it can leave you feeling confused, rejected, and emotionally devastated.
But the label isn’t the whole story.
In this video, I explore the deeper emotional dynamics behind adult child estrangement, why therapeutic language sometimes creates distance instead of healing, and what to do instead of getting trapped in endless cycles of defending yourself.
If you’ve apologized, respected boundaries, tried to explain your intentions, and still feel misunderstood, this one’s for you. I talk through why fighting the label often makes things worse — and how responding with clarity, emotional maturity, and compassion can open a healthier path forward.
The Complexities of Estrangement
What Does Estrangement truly Mean?
Join Bonny Scott and Karen Stockham as they discuss the complexities of estrangement, especially during the holiday season. They explore what estrangement truly means, the emotional and physical distancing involved, and the various stages it can entail.
Bonny and Karen provide valuable tips and strategies on how to cope with estrangement, foster human connections, and maintain self-awareness during family gatherings. They emphasize the importance of self-compassion, setting boundaries, and understanding the stories we tell ourselves.
This chat aims to support those dealing with family disconnection and offers insights into finding personal peace and connection during trying times.
Karen Stockham Website: http://www.stockhamcoaching.com
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