Estranged from your
Adult child? Inner Work
Coaching for Estranged
Parents

You don’t have to choose between your pain and your hope. Through gentle inner work and specialized estrangement coaching, I help you calm your nervous system and take compassionate steps toward healing – whether or not your adult child is ready to reconnect.

I’ve supported numerous estranged parents gain the skills they needed to establish different patterns of behavior and change their family relationships. Learn more about estrangement coaching.

Inner Healing and Inner Work for Estranged Parents

As an estranged parent, estrangement is painful especially when your adult child is the one who has pulled away. Through gentle inner work, you can begin to heal the heartbreak of estrangement, even if your adult child is not ready to reconnect. Perhaps your adult child relationship has always felt strained, or the disconnect was a shock after years of trying your best. Maybe you are still in contact but only if you walk on eggshells and keep every conversation on the surface, which feels exhausting.

What are you struggling with?

• Not knowing how to get your estranged adult child to communicate with you?
• Feeling like you are the only estranged parent experiencing disconnect?
• Unsure how to repair the relationship without making things worse?
• Fearing that your relationship will never improve or that reconciliation is impossible?
• Carrying resentment, anger, guilt or shame about what has happened – and longing to feel peace again?

I offer coaching for estranged parents to help you calm the emotional storm, engage in transformative inner work, and take thoughtful steps toward healing – whether or not your child is ready to reconnect.

Here's How Estrangement Coaching Works

Schedule a Call

Schedule a free consultation to talk about how being an estranged parent is affecting your heart, mind and daily life. Your voice matters and I will listen so you can see how estrangement coaching and gentle inner work can help you feel calmer, clearer and more at peace even in the midst of adult child issues.

Customized Coaching Package

Begin a 6-month, one-to-one estrangement coaching program on Zoom created specifically for estranged parents. Together, we'll do practical inner work - healing patterns, emotions and beliefs - so your new responses and boundaries become a natural part of your everyday life..

Parent with Peace

Learn to parent with peace as an estranged parent, even when your adult child keeps their distance. Through ongoing inner work, you'll become a safe, grounded presence in your adult child relationship and rediscover joy and meaning in your own life - whether or not reconciliation happens quickly.

Reviews From Clients

With Bonny's gentle coaching, I began to find the hope that I had lost. I found myself again. Today my adult child relationship is exactly where it needs to be and I am at peace. I continue to have curiosity and hope for our future relationship. 15 MONTHS LATER: We had ALL the adult kids home this weekend. And guess what? It went really well. Your voice resonated in my ears several times and got me through a couple of tough moments!

I can't thank you enough for our work together that prepared me for an unexpected, difficult interaction with my adult child. Our interactions over the next 2-3 weeks could so easily have gone differently had I not been working with you. I feel a sense of optimism as our relationship has made real progress. I now trust myself to not react impulsively, to step back and give her (and others in my life) "space". Your work with me was a gift that cannot be overstated.

I felt like my relationship with my adult daughter was spiraling away. With Bonny's guidance, I began to calm the worry and fear that seemed to make me blurt out the wrong things when I talked to my adult daughter. As I noticed my successes, my confidence improved. I am able to approach my daughter with more openness, calmness and listen better. Things between us are improving. I can see that what I have practiced with Bonny will keep our relationship moving in the right direction.

My son dumped his partner! He thanks me today that I let him figure out that it was not a healthy relationship. You taught me that building trust takes time. I learned to detach with love. I had to give him the space he needed and not hound him. It's his life. The small steps when he would reach out were very small but over time showed him that he can trust me and count on me to not judge. You taught me to trust the process when I was having a very dark time. I wanted you to know that you really helped me.

I was devastated when our son told us he needed space and not to contact him. I began to understand that I needed to work on my healing and let my son work on his. I now know how to navigate this life event and am at a place of peace. I am no longer afraid of saying the wrong things and I listen better. I wouldn't have been able to get here without Bonny's guidance.

After doing my inner work, I can see myself compassionately. I can be gentle with myself after years of being so hard on myself. I didn't believe it was possible before I met Bonny. My healing inspired healing throughout my family. The relationship with my adult child is more authentic and I feel more confident. 8 MONTHS LATER: My adult child relationship continues to improve beyond belief. I validate the heck out of him. He'll say, "Thank you for listening, for hearing me, for understanding." Because I am different, our relationship has changed. 4 MONTHS LATER: I received an invitation to Mother's Day Brunch today. This is a big deal. For years, I might get a call or card while Father's Day was a special event; it hurt. Working with you has changed my perspective of creating "emotional safety" in our relationship. Some days are joyful; others challenging. This work has positively impacted my relationship with my adult child.

I exhausted years of multiple therapists trying to understand how to communicate with my adult daughter. Bonny gently helped me understand parent - adult child relationships. My heart started to heal. Bonny helped me beyond my expectations during the most painful period of my life. I am no longer defensive, respond without judgement and can really listen. I was pleasantly surprised when my adult daughter not only came to our holiday celebration but stayed the whole time! Usually she would want me to leave because she felt anxious or stressed. The following weekend, she came over, hugged me and said, "I love you." My heart is renewed.

Before working with Bonny I was riddled with anxiety when I knew my son would be present. I would cry and be so anxious trying to predict what to say or not say. Today our relationship is pleasant. Bonny helped me prepare for family events and soon I was able to talk to my son and know when to back off. Now we understand one another's boundaries. I would not have grown so much without Bonny's help.

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Your Inner Healing

Here’s what makes my approach for estranged parents unique:

• Powerful Coaching Toolbox: I combine mindset, somatic principles and gentle inner work so your powerful brain and your wise heart work together to create emotional balance.

• My Healing Philosophy: In my experience with estranged parents, healing happens in sprinkles (not like Niagara Falls), one gentle bit of inner work over time.

• Customization: I draw on my certification training and my experience of working with hundreds of people to create a customized coaching package tailored to your estrangement journey.

I’ll help you show up with compassion, confidence and calmness so that, when the opportunity arises to interact with your adult child, you feel grounded and prepared.

Schedule a complimentary call today to begin the inner work of healing as an estranged parent and take the first step toward a life of greater peace, happiness and possibility.

Estranged from yourAdult child? Inner Work Coaching for Estranged Parents