Estrangement Coaching
for Estranged Moms

With Bonny's gentle coaching, I began to find the hope that I had lost. I found myself again. Today my adult child relationship is exactly where it needs to be and I am at peace. I continue to have curiosity and hope for our future relationship. 15 MONTHS LATER: We had ALL the adult kids home this weekend. And guess what? It went really well. Your voice resonated in my ears several times and got me through a couple of tough moments!

I can't thank you enough for our work together that prepared me for an unexpected, difficult interaction with my adult child. Our interactions over the next 2-3 weeks could so easily have gone differently had I not been working with you. I feel a sense of optimism as our relationship has made real progress. I now trust myself to not react impulsively, to step back and give her (and others in my life) "space". Your work with me was a gift that cannot be overstated.

I felt like my relationship with my adult daughter was spiraling away. With Bonny's guidance, I began to calm the worry and fear that seemed to make me blurt out the wrong things when I talked to my adult daughter. As I noticed my successes, my confidence improved. I am able to approach my daughter with more openness, calmness and listen better. Things between us are improving. I can see that what I have practiced with Bonny will keep our relationship moving in the right direction.

My son dumped his partner! He thanks me today that I let him figure out that it was not a healthy relationship. You taught me that building trust takes time. I learned to detach with love. I had to give him the space he needed and not hound him. It's his life. The small steps when he would reach out were very small but over time showed him that he can trust me and count on me to not judge. You taught me to trust the process when I was having a very dark time. I wanted you to know that you really helped me.

I was devastated when our son told us he needed space and not to contact him. I began to understand that I needed to work on my healing and let my son work on his. I now know how to navigate this life event and am at a place of peace. I am no longer afraid of saying the wrong things and I listen better. I wouldn't have been able to get here without Bonny's guidance.

After doing my inner work, I can see myself compassionately. I can be gentle with myself after years of being so hard on myself. I didn't believe it was possible before I met Bonny. My healing inspired healing throughout my family. The relationship with my adult child is more authentic and I feel more confident. 8 MONTHS LATER: My adult child relationship continues to improve beyond belief. I validate the heck out of him. He'll say, "Thank you for listening, for hearing me, for understanding." Because I am different, our relationship has changed. 4 MONTHS LATER: I received an invitation to Mother's Day Brunch today. This is a big deal. For years, I might get a call or card while Father's Day was a special event; it hurt. Working with you has changed my perspective of creating "emotional safety" in our relationship. Some days are joyful; others challenging. This work has positively impacted my relationship with my adult child.

I exhausted years of multiple therapists trying to understand how to communicate with my adult daughter. Bonny gently helped me understand parent - adult child relationships. My heart started to heal. Bonny helped me beyond my expectations during the most painful period of my life. I am no longer defensive, can respond without judgement and can really listen. I was pleasantly surprised when my adult daughter not only came to our holiday celebration but stayed the whole time! Usually she would want me to leave because she felt anxious or stressed. The following weekend, she came over, hugged me and said, "I love you." My heart is renewed.

Before working with Bonny I was riddled with anxiety when I knew my son would be present. I would cry and be so anxious trying to predict what to say or not say. Today our relationship is pleasant. Bonny helped me prepare for family events and soon I was able to talk to my son and know when to back off. Now we understand one another's boundaries. I would not have grown so much without Bonny's help.

“Estrangement pain overshadowed an unhealthy relationship pattern between my daughter and me. I had become her emotional punching bag, soaked up all of her problems, and owned them. I thought I was being a good mom but really I was an emotional crutch, which didn’t help me or my daughter. As horrible as it was, estrangement helped me open my eyes and become a better person. I have gained massive clarity through coaching with Bonny. I don’t feel the grief that I did 4 months ago. I feel a positive awakening and am at peace with myself. As reconciliation continues, I am curious, able to set healthy boundaries and feel comfortable in my own skin, my marriage and my choices. The people around me are better too because I have grown so much.”